Questions & Answers
1.Who pays for the wedding?
2.Where do I start with my guest list?
3.Who do we invite if we're getting married abroad?
4.Who sends the invitations and when?
5.Should I set a dress code?
6. What time should the bride & groom get to the ceremony?
7.Do my bridesmaids enter before or after me?
8. What duties do the best man and ushers have?
9.Can my pet dog be part of my wedding?
10.Do we have to have favours?
11.Do we need a receiving line?
12.Should we offer a choice of food?
13.When are the speeches and in what order?
14.When should we register our gift list?
15.Can we ask for cash instead of presents?
Within the Church of England and the nonconformist Christian churches it is ...
Within the Church of England and the nonconformist Christian churches it is likely that the pastor will discuss not only the spiritual aspects of marriage but also offer some useful practical guidance not just about the ceremony itself but on some of the other problems which newly-weds may encounter during the first days, weeks and months of their married life. Love (noun) - A temporary insanity curable by marriage.’ ? The Devil's Dictionary At such meetings it is likely that the particular church's attitude to birth control may be one of the topics discussed. Here too priests who are in regular touch, through their jobs, with social workers and the social services may be able to offer practical help, in the sense of names and addresses of useful contacts, as well as explaining their doctrinal views. Many couples who, prior to considering a church wedding, had been virtual non-believers, as well as the spiritually committed, find such discussions of immense value.
For getting together with their parish priest brings a couple into contact with an objective observer who by reason of his calling is both an avowed man of good will and someone with a unique fund of past experience on the how-and-why workings of marriage. Often for example it is easier to discuss with a stranger and get an informed, useful 'second opinion' on such subjects as future household budgeting than it is to ring on the aid of members of either groom's or bride's family.
In this context it is worth remembering also that if the couple are to live in the parish where they marry, their pastor is someone to who they can turn for spiritual. or psychological aid if they do hit post-wedding hazards, and that this will be easier to seek if a pre-wedding relationship has been established.