Questions & Answers
1.Who pays for the wedding?
2.Where do I start with my guest list?
3.Who do we invite if we're getting married abroad?
4.Who sends the invitations and when?
5.Should I set a dress code?
6. What time should the bride & groom get to the ceremony?
7.Do my bridesmaids enter before or after me?
8. What duties do the best man and ushers have?
9.Can my pet dog be part of my wedding?
10.Do we have to have favours?
11.Do we need a receiving line?
12.Should we offer a choice of food?
13.When are the speeches and in what order?
14.When should we register our gift list?
15.Can we ask for cash instead of presents?
WEDDING PREPARATIONS `A MARRIAGE has been arranged.' With the publication of these ...
WEDDING PREPARATIONS `A MARRIAGE has been arranged.' With the publication of these familiar words in the appropriate columns of the national or local press begins a whirl of planning, preparation and excitement in the home of the prospective bride, and to a lesser extent the groom. The formal announcement of a wedding should be similar to the following: `A marriage has been arranged (and will shortly take place) between Mr Phillip Chingford, son of Lt. Col. C. H. Chingford of Rose Hall, Portsmouth, and Alice, daughter of Mr and Mrs.
D. G. Penge of St Catherine’s Avenue, Huddersfield.' The words in parenthesis should be included only if the date of the wedding has actually been arranged at the time of the initial announcement. Such public announcements are not, however, substitutes for personal invitations and any guests who arrived at the church or reception simply on the basis of having read about it in a news site could justifiably be considered as gate-crashers. Wedding invitations must be written.
Telephoned or word-of-mouth invitations are not suitable for such an important event. The traditional form of wedding invitation is a double sheet of notepaper folded to form its own envelope and engraved or printed in black. It is sometimes thought that including in the design of the invitation a detachable form on which prospective guests can reply formally facilitates the speedy answers which a hard-pressed 'mother of the bride' needs to complete catering and other arrangements.
This, however, is entirely a matter of personal choice. Today a simpler style of wedding invitation, the silver-edged single pasteboard sold for normal parties or at homes, is coming into fashion. It is also possible to buy illustrated and decorated ready-printed wedding invitations by the packet, although these are still closer to the American and Continental than to the U.K. taste. Wedding invitations can be written by hand and should, even when addressed to close relatives, be in the same impersonal style as printed invitations, i.e: `Mr and Mrs.